We live in a stress filled world. Some of that stress is internally imposed. Some of it comes from the world around us and is externally imposed. In this blog I will discuss those external stressors. In my next blog I will discuss the internal stressors.
Inner peace does not deny the realities that surround us. It just insulates us from being consumed by them.
We each experience a variety of external stressors. There are the common every-day variety ones. Then there are stressors that come from unanticipated events. Furthermore, there are the long-term stressors that seem to live with us in perpetuity.
These are those irritating things that we encounter on a daily basis.
These are all things that cause an adrenaline rush in the moment, and in that moment we feel...
So often it feels like life is not following the script. It feels as though we are on an endless hamster wheel. We keep trying to run faster but our level of exhaustion and frustration exceeds our progress. When it feels like life is falling short of the life we want to have, that we are striving to have, that we think we deserve to have, it is only natural to feel frustrated. We may ask why? We may feel life is not fair. We are desperate to change it yet feel powerless to do so.
How often have you looked back and said “I wish I had …..” or “If only I had …”. We may feel frustrated as we recognize missed opportunities. There is absolutely nothing we can do to change the past. The best that we can hope for as a result of 20/20 hindsight is the knowledge to help us avoid those mistakes going forward.
Our circumstances today are the result of thousands and tens of thousands of...
Why do some people consistently achieve their goals when others who seem just as committed consistently fail to achieve their goals?
Sometimes they do. People who consistently achieve their goals have a powerful why that propels action. People who don’t achieve their goals frequently don’t have that powerful why. Their goals represent things they “should do” or “it would be nice to do” not things that are incredibly important to them for compelling reasons. It really is about the choices we make when we are setting those goals. CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE POWER OF CHOICE
People who are accustomed to keeping commitments to themselves achieve goals consistently (assuming they set appropriate goals to begin with). People who are constantly overwhelmed and in the habit of procrastinating are...
On January 1, 2020 did you have a list of goals for 2020. Were you excited about the promise of a new year and a new opportunity? Was this the year you were going to finally ……….?
I suspect that if you are like most people some of those goals were already at risk before COVID 19 changed our world in March. For essential workers, it increased their hours, their feelings of being at risk, and their stress levels.
For others they were suddenly thrust into the role of a homeschooling teacher. I loved the comment of one child, when asked about his teacher, replied that he really wanted a different teacher the next year (sorry mom).
For some there was the challenge of adjusting to telecommuting, and for others it was the challenge being unemployed with nowhere to go and nothing to do.
None of these things were anticipated when we optimistically created that list on “2020 Goals”.
All three of these words have the same root…mind. Yet they are totally different. At different times each of them could probably accurately describe where we are at. How do they differ and why is that significant?
When we are mindful, we are consciously focused on something. We are fully and completely present.
Mindset refers to a fixed attitude and an unwillingness to change.
Mindless is another way of describing what I frequently call living on “automatic pilot.” It is making choices without thinking about them and their potential consequences.
Like so may other things in life this is not all good or all bad. For the vast majority of us we do not need to think about breathing, our heart beating or simple movements. These things happen mindlessly. They do not require conscious thought. That is great. That allows us to focus on things beyond the basic mechanics of staying alive. ...
When it feels like life is falling short of the life we want to have, that we are striving to have, that we think we deserve to have, it is only natural to feel frustrated. We may ask why? We may feel life is not fair. We may ask what we need to do to change it.
How often have you looked back and said “I wish I had …..” or “If only I had …”. There is absolutely nothing we can do to change the past. Our circumstances today are the result of thousands and tens of thousands of small and large decisions we have made in the past. Our today is the cumulative result of all of those choices. We can learn from the past. However, once we have extracted the lessons from the past that are meaningful today or in the future, there is nothing to be gained by agonizing over it. When we do that we lose today.
It is fun to dream about all...