Frustrated … Overwhelmed … Or Both?

So often it feels like life is not following the script. It feels as though we are on an endless hamster wheel. We keep trying to run faster but our level of exhaustion and frustration exceeds our progress. When it feels like life is falling short of the life we want to have, that we are striving to have, that we think we deserve to have, it is only natural to feel frustrated.  We may ask why?  We may feel life is not fair.  We are desperate to change it yet feel powerless to do so.

20/20 Hindsight

How often have you looked back and said “I wish I had …..” or  “If only I had …”.  We may feel frustrated as we recognize missed opportunities. There is absolutely nothing we can do to change the past.  The best that we can hope for as a result of 20/20 hindsight is the knowledge to help us avoid those mistakes going forward.    

Our circumstances today are the result of thousands and tens of thousands of...

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Is There a Magic Bullet to Achieving Your Goals?

Why do some people consistently achieve their goals when others who seem just as committed consistently fail to achieve their goals?

Do They Set Different Goals?

Sometimes they do.  People who consistently achieve their goals have a powerful why that propels action.  People who don’t achieve their goals frequently don’t have that powerful why.  Their goals represent things they “should do” or “it would be nice to do” not things that are incredibly important to them for compelling reasons.  It really is about the choices we make when we are setting those goals.  CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE POWER OF CHOICE

But What if They Set the Same Goals and Some Are Still Consistently Unsuccessful?

People who are accustomed to keeping commitments to themselves achieve goals consistently (assuming they set appropriate goals to begin with).  People who are constantly overwhelmed and in the habit of procrastinating are...

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Goals and The COVID 19 Pandemic

On January 1, 2020 did you have a list of goals for 2020.  Were you excited about the promise of a new year and a new opportunity?  Was this the year you were going to finally ……….?

I suspect that if you are like most people some of those goals were already at risk before COVID 19 changed our world in March.  For essential workers, it increased their hours, their feelings of being at risk, and their stress levels.

For others they were suddenly thrust into the role of a homeschooling teacher.  I loved the comment of one child, when asked about his teacher, replied that he really wanted a different teacher the next year (sorry mom). 

For some there was the challenge of adjusting to telecommuting, and for others it was the challenge being unemployed with nowhere to go and nothing to do.

None of these things were anticipated when we optimistically created that list on “2020 Goals”.

Reality Check #1 – Some of Those Goals...

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Mindless...Mindset...Mindful

choice mindful May 08, 2019

All three of these words have the same root…mind.  Yet they are totally different.  At different times each of them could probably accurately describe where we are at.  How do they differ and why is that significant?

When we are mindful, we are consciously focused on something.  We are fully and completely present.

Mindset refers to a fixed attitude and an unwillingness to change.  

Mindless is another way of describing what I frequently call living on “automatic pilot.” It is making choices without thinking about them and their potential consequences.

Being Mindless

Like so may other things in life this is not all good or all bad.  For the vast majority of us we do not need to think about breathing, our heart beating or simple movements.  These things happen mindlessly.  They do not require conscious thought.  That is great.  That allows us to focus on things beyond the basic mechanics of staying alive. ...

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Choices Are Our Values in Action

choice values Apr 30, 2019

The power to choose is one of the great freedoms we enjoy.  We have the power to choose who we are.  We have the power to choose what we do.  Sometimes they are intertwined.

The Power to Choose Who We Are

This relates to attributes of character.  Perhaps as a child you were taught to be kind.  If your spouse, your boss or someone else you interact with regularly never learned this as a child it may make for uncomfortable interaction.  You may view them as rude or uncaring when that is not necessarily their intention.  They may view you as lacking in strength and even wishy washy.

I was raised to say please and thank you.  As a young woman fresh out of college and in my first supervisory position I would ask my employees to “Please do …….. “ It didn’t take long for me to realize that they though they had a choice.  We had to have a heart to heart and nose to nose discussion to make them understand that...

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Feeling Frustrated?

choice frustration success Apr 16, 2019

          

When it feels like life is falling short of the life we want to have, that we are striving to have, that we think we deserve to have, it is only natural to feel frustrated.  We may ask why?  We may feel life is not fair.  We may ask what we need to do to change it.

Yesterday

How often have you looked back and said “I wish I had …..” or  “If only I had …”.  There is absolutely nothing we can do to change the past.  Our circumstances today are the result of thousands and tens of thousands of small and large decisions we have made in the past.  Our today is the cumulative result of all of those choices.  We can learn from the past.  However, once we have extracted the lessons from the past that are meaningful today or in the future, there is nothing to be gained by agonizing over it.   When we do that we lose today.

Tomorrow

It is fun to dream about all...

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